(un)Natural Mom by Hettie Brittz
Have you ever felt like a square peg in a round hole in this vast ocean of Motherhood critics? A somewhat misfit in the one thing that should come so naturally to us Moms. Yet, it’s far more difficult than we could have ever imagined.
This book offers such a refreshing take on Motherhood. Examining how every mom is different and true to her own personality. I love how Hettie encourages us to be true to ourselves and not to try and fit into a mold or model that others require of us. She goes into detail, expounding on the different personalities of different women. Encouraging us that we are by nature different, so therefore, so are our parenting styles. She breaks myths such as “Every Woman must be Naturally Maternal”and “Every Mom must find Parenting Natural”. She abolishes the idea that woman have to give birth naturally or have to breastfeed. She breaks the shackles of time old traditions and frees us up to make our own decisions regarding our mothering style based on who we are, naturally.
“I meet many moms who have been bullied by models of motherhood that are simply as foreign to them as a saddle to a moose.”
It’s been such a freeing read. Freeing myself from the expectations that have been placed on me, by others and myself. Learning that’s it’s okay to go at my own pace in this Motherhood journey and walk my own road, no matter how different it may be.
“Our idea of the perfect mother is a collection of requirements handed down by people around us. Some of these ideas may be close to God’s, but many are mere cultural tapestries thick with dust and myths. Unraveling these to test each idea against God’s Word is worthwhile. This is tricky, of course. It is a journey each mother should embark upon with wise women to guide her as she prays and asks God for answers to this first question.”
Hettie uses this quote from Ram Dass, which aptly describes how we should view Motherhood.
When you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You appreciate it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. ~ Ram Dass
Shall we then, learn to appreciate one another for who we are, learn to embrace our uniqueness as Moms and learn to allow our trees to look different!